Family gatherings can be occasions to celebrate – or to dread. You look forward to seeing some relatives, but others leave you stressed.
加州州立大学洛杉矶分校的临床心理学家Ramani Durvasula博士说，第一步是照顾好自己。
“Protect your time and space,” she says. “Get your own room at a hotel or Airbnb [if you’re traveling]. Explain that you can’t stay up late.” When you’re rested and in control of your arthritis, you can more easily deal with annoyances and enjoy this “most wonderful time of the year.”
Remember that people won’t change for this one occasion, Durvasula adds. But you cansafeguard yourself – and your holiday cheer-通过这些技巧来应对一些具有挑战性的个性。
The Grinch
He detests this time of year, convinced the celebrations are wastes of time and money plotted by corporations. You dread getting cornered by the gloom and doom.
Try this:When the conversation turns into grumbling, just smile and say “Happy holidays!” Then politely exit ASAP. You won’t convince him that the season is magical.
Grudge-Holder
Every year she airs grievances – “Some people seem to get more expensive presents every year.” Or “I have to sit here and pretend to be nice to him, even after he was so rude to me.”
Try this:Remind her that every year is a fresh start. She will probably be disappointed no matter what you say; don’t let it become your problem.
Peter Pan
There needs to be a kids’ table for this person; his maturity hasn’t caught up with his age.
Try this:As long as his actions and comments don’t cause you hardship, no need to judge. Embrace his joie de vivre.
Show-Off
她的豪宅里有五棵节日树，放心吧，每一张餐巾纸、每一件装饰和每一份礼物都会“很好”，她很可能会在你的一举一动上领先你。
Try this:骄傲地穿上你丑陋的节日毛衣，记住你不需要向她证明什么。礼貌地点头，祝贺她即将和她的摇滚明星丈夫进行为期三个月的旅行，然后在感觉舒服的时候离开。
Never-Helper
他坐在沙发上看电视，对那些忙着帮忙服务、打扫卫生或照看孩子的人视而不见。
Try this:If you decide to urge him to help, be prepared for an eye-roll. Try appealing to his ego; for example, if he’s technically talented, ask him to set up the DVD player so the kids can watchFrozenagain.
Author: STEPHANIE STEPHENS
Related Resources:
- Balancing Arthritis Care and Holiday Cheer
- Helpful Hints for the Holidays
- Fuss-Free Holiday Party Foods